Love has become an industry. Anyone can buy a beautiful sentiment for their significant other, whether it's genuine or not and as a result, everything related to love is kind of cliche. I believe that the only way to really describe one's personal meaning of love is to relate it to personal experiences and people. I won't pretend that I've ever been IN love or anything close to it but I certainly have much love for my family and my friends. In my short life I've come to know that love certainly isn't something that a person inherently possesses for another person. When each of my parents remarried, I ended up with an extra mom and dad, two more sisters, and another brother. While I could easily have decided that they were not blood family members, I was young enough that I let them in. Now with my family members, we've dropped the "step" in step-brother or or step-father and those boundaries have blurred. They are just as much my family as any blood member of my family.
While the closeness and love that I have with family and friends is something which makes each day better, it can also be a curse. People have the illusion that they have control which is comforting but really, things happen everyday that no one can control. Loving the people around you so much intensifies any kind of pain for someone or something that has happened. Not long ago, my father divorced my stepmother. The bonds I had formed years ago with my new, bigger family were instantly altered. I continued to love them and care and worry, but it was made more difficult by the fact that I was unable to see them. They still feel like family, but technically, we are no longer a family and I don't see them regularly as I once had.
Loving everyone around you can be painful as there will always be things out of your control. I've yet to lose anyone very close to me but when it inevitably happens, it will be worsened by the fact that I love them so much; however, undeniably, love is worth it
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I really like a lot of things you said in this blog. I agree that you don't just love a set number of people and that you constantly end up letting more people into your life and loving them. I like the example of your step family. One thing I don't completely agree with is that love is an industry. Although there is truth in saying that, (come on, valentine's day and all of those tacky stuffed animals) I think love in real life is a lot different than the love of just buying people a million ballons and a stuffed kitten that says "i love you" so those two feelings should be categorized differently. In your blog its apparent that you recognize real love and commerical love though!
Just for the title. I give you 15 out of 10.
Casey your story about your family really got to me. It sucks that a family has to be separated by the choices of two members of the family like a divorce. But keeping those bonds with your family is very important. I cannot see my family separating like yours and I don't know how I would take it. It would hurt really bad. I do agree that it is important to love your friends and family and that new love can approach at any time.
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Casey your story about your family really got to me. It sucks that a family has to be separated by the choices of two members of the family like a divorce. But keeping those bonds with your family is very important. I cannot see my family separating like yours and I don't know how I would take it. It would hurt really bad. I do agree that it is important to love your friends and family and that new love can approach at any time.
P.S. Moonwalk Birthday Party... Holla
You underestimate what I think. Love is the only thing that gives life meaning, and for that purpose love is always worth finding and pursuing. I agree with most of what you've said on the base nature of love, but I feel it goes much deeper than that.
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